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Jessica - 2005-12-13 14:30:56
Let's see. What should you do? Frankly, if the girl is smart (I'd hope she would be), she would note several things in silence herself: a-this is a nice conversation with this tall fellow, b-this guy interrupting is a total superficial jackwipe, c-the tall fellow showed great restraint in not backhanding the jackwipe, which may have been what she wanted to to herself. Then she would've filed all this information away for later consideration. If she's smart. But attraction is rarely so simply. If it was, I wouldn't be in the mess I'm in either. Stay with your morals, your personal code...I didn't once and it didn't work out AND I felt like hell for not following my own code.
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Officehours - 2005-12-13 18:03:46
If I had 5� for every second I blushed because you wrote "adoring legions" I would split the money with you and we could both afford to finish school without scholarships.
But that is neither here nor there.
Ghosty, you are a man of extremes.
For some reason you feel as though the only options are to either rip this man's head off or to go back to "your place" in the shadows at the back of the room.
This is a tough situation and since I am in one like it, I don't have much advice.
Wait. That was a lie. I have tons of advice, its just too bad that only one or two suggestions are of any value.
My only suggestion is that you do nothing against your personal code and everything against the fear of rejection you have. There should be a middle ground in there somewhere.
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Pfirsich - 2005-12-14 10:45:01
I personally like it that you are holding back.I think that�s normal and more classy from where you stand.Don�t be sad,I like that.You just stay put.
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mia - 2005-12-14 14:26:29
Dear, sweet, wonderful sexy patrick.. =) I will give you my opinion /advice but only you can choose for yourself what to do about the situation. First off if this girl is smart, she will see how great you are. Secondly.. talking to her is a great start, ask her out for coffee sometime. Not a formal date type thing, just some conversation so you can feel her out a bit , you can casually say things like.. so what kinds of things do you like to do.. etc.. I know that sounds cheesy, but I love it when a guy takes time to ask me about my intrests. I understand the fear of being rejected, as I say in my diary a lot until I found NA I always felt like I never fit in. Im not saying anything bad about you here, but those 12 steps work for everything. I have huge issues with self esteem and such, and they have helped me overcome those negative thoughts about myself. Im always looking for balance and its hard to find sometimes, but Im getting better at it. For me a lot of the stuff I think is only in my head, no one elses. As you know you have " adoring legions" * grins* that think you are a terrific person. I wish I could get that in your head to the point that you would belive that you are terrific. I think that a lot of what you tell yourself in your own mind does project itself to others. I used to be a stripper and if I told myself, that Im sexy, hot funny and every guy in here wants to give me money Id do very well that nite. Sounds lame, but its really true. Say to yourself, Im sexy, smart, funny and any girl would love to go out to coffee with me. =) I hope this helps.. if not sorry that I couldn't help. feel free to email me sometime I posted it up there. Just have confidence hunny, we all think you are great. hugs, mia
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Pfirsich - 2005-12-15 16:54:14
You think she might escape you if you don�t ask her out quickly? Or,for coffee like you said? Is that the reason behind it? Cause,as sad as that might sound,I don�t think you can hold her in if she doesn�t want to...If she wants to fly away from you,then,what can you do? It sound like she is like a butterfly and you want to catch her in-but,that still sounds cruel to me! What are you gonna do,if someone doesn�t like you,then there�s nothing you can do,right? I myself don�t believe all of these stories though,those stories of really great persons and you couldn�t reach them.I think you are idealizing them!! Because they are so far away.And if they would get closer,the colours would come off and you could see their true faces.---Just take a girl who likes you! Take a girl who is flying around you,surrounding you anyway! You know? Just take the easy way! Right? I don�t know if I understood your problem right.
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Pfirsich - 2005-12-15 16:57:44
Just consider a girl who is drawn to you anyway!! Just wait and see who digs you the most,and,not by what they say,more by how they act:if they want to be close to you physically all the time. Then just consider a girl who wants that the most!---But I don�t think I got your problem in the first place.Why are you making plans you will never pull through anyway? Just make plans you WILL pull through.PLan stuff you are going to do anyway.Like,do you know yourself at all?
Just make plans with stuff that is most likely to happen anyway.Then you come out as the good guy!
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